This is something that has been on my mind for a long time but I noticed this espeially when I went for a holiday in the Netherlands last december. I've been brought up in a very Feminist society (The Netherlands). Then I moved to Portugal. It's a macho community. It's women are emancipated, sure, but to the men they are either princesses or whores. Or mothers (Mothers are queens... There's a reason the worst insult is "son of a bitch") At first I was sometimes considered an oaf, when I wasn't holding open doors or letting them go in front of me in a cue. So after a few years (it's been 5 now) I learned to be courteous, treat them as special, help carrying heavy things... Then on holiday in the Netherlands I noticed that I got dirty looks when I did those things. I offered to help carry stuff, stood up in the tram and offered my seat, held open a door. Never once did I get a thank you. I think Feminism killed off the Gentleman. I mean al I was doing was trying to give people a hand, and I was treated like I was kicking them back to the dark ages. What do you guys think?